Little Fires Everywhere: Dealing with Nags

100% of the time, if someone invites themself into your space without your permission, they do not respect your boundaries. They get a pass if they don’t know it the first time, and they may test you or forget a second time, but a third time is disrespectful. Therefore, you don’t have to respect them back. Let’s look at it this way, if you’re trying to help a drowning man (and I will refer to this often) but the man is trying to drown you, then you are unable to help that person. If you really want to help them, you can wait until they calm down, but if they see your life as expendable then it’s YOUR responsibility to save yourself. Now when it comes to gangstalkers and such, I’m not listening to a dumb bitch who’s life’s a total mess in more ways than just visually. Now none of these bitches have had the courage, boss energy, respect or know how to do anything independently/successfully/or maturely without me as the blueprint or sucking a man’s dick. At that point, it’s an immediate “No”, when it comes to considering or opening up to nobodies that have no authority over my life nor any self respect PLUS cannot cultivate genuine respect from others because they’re fake and have to send messages through other people. My room could be hit by a tornado and a bitch could pigeon message me instructions on where and how to start, followed by criticism— and I wouldn’t take it, accept it or give it the time of day BECAUSE this is not a person that wants to genuinely help. This is a person who wants to feel wanted, of value for self-serving purposes and be a dictator to others. Red flag alert, and it’s all about energy. As a former volunteer for community activism and neighborhood cleanups, there’s a salad bowl of people who help for different reasons. Being gangstalked has attracted a lot of the negative, toxic, kids have great disdain for them, bossy at home/tiger mom/helicopter parent/micromanager, etc.— basically, these bitches don’t have an OFF switch when it comes to controlling others and they have an even harder time dealing with uncontrollable things in their personal life. They’re not really a help, unless you ask for it. These people are psychologically damage because they don’t respect boundaries, consent is foreign to them, they enjoy superficial bullshit. And while they laugh about it, I’m apart of the group that sneers at them as if they’re garbage cans on the corner the night before garbage day. Like, their whole entire aura is gross. And I’ve become so heightened to just a moment of that energy, that I protect myself and immediately reject it for my better good. It’s like seeing hot wet garbage spilling out and almost touching you— like “EWW! Barf! I just can’t”. MY rooms, car can be messy (not as messy as the dorm picture, childhood home, young/mid adult apartment as some old bitch I knew, but it will never evoke the disgust I get when I see the revolting energy of a NAG who assumes they can dictate any fucking thing over my life. I’m at a point when that shit emotionally kicks in to protection mode like “NOPE!! Block it, dislike it, turn it off.” It’s seriously about confidence and knowing what’s good for me and my body naturally responding to negative behaviors that really project self hate, afraid of losing control/getting older/not living a fulfilled life/the need to win medals through people (even if they’re not contributing shit for you, just ABC advice).

So yeah, lately my self development has blossomed into rejecting anyone who carries that invasive nag energy. They aren’t genuine, they don’t care about your welfare really— they just want to nag/criticize/and honestly put you down in a passive way. It doesn’t work on me, but I thought I should share it with you all, because they will try it on you and when you notice it you’re highly likely gonna laugh and be like “Chalise was right.” The shit will make you chuckle at first, because they try so hard to project insecurities that we aren’t responsible for saving them out of. Let them bitches drown.